The fact remains that many people lie to get other people do what they want them to do. People who lie to manipulate a situation or other people are often only interested in personal gain and fail to consider other people's feelings. By lying or omitting details, the person can achieve a personal goal. However, it is important to note that a lie manipulates a situation and a person's thoughts; even a lie that is told with innocent intentions. What we say and do has an effect on others and even well-intended lies are a form of manipulation.
A Matter of Trust. Lying creates an uncomfortable situation because we expect others to treat us honorably and tell the truth.
We expect not to be lied to and when the situation occurs, we lose faith and trust in the other person. There are some people typically those with certain personality disorders who lie frequently and do not care about the effects of their lies. This type of person also typically does not care about the treatment he receives from other people.
Most people, however, care how others treat them and knowing they were lied to can be a breach of trust, depending on the gravity of the lie. Our perception can affect our acceptance of lying and the consequences of the lie itself. For example, many people believe politicians lie.
Since it is expected, the lies are often accepted. The same applies to used-car salespersons. Few people are affected by the breach of trust that might occur when these people lie and life goes on, with little upset. Compulsive and Pathological Lying A more serious problem with lies occurs when lying becomes compulsive or pathological. A compulsive liar uses lies as a way of life. Lying for any situation or no reason takes the place of honesty.
A compulsive liar lies because it serves the person in some odd way and he takes comfort in lies. Compulsive lying is often accompanied by other personality disorders like narcissism. While the person delving into compulsive lies feels secure, the lies often hurt and damage relationships, family and friends.
Compulsive lying is an addiction and becomes difficult to stop once it has become a way of life. But that's not going to happen and therefore it's important for all of us to sometimes dig just a little deeper and try to find the actual truth.
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Some people do this all the time enjoying the power they obtain in controlling the information available to the target. Avoiding embarrassment is still another motive for some serious and many trivial lies.
The child who claims the wet seat resulted from spilling a glass of water, not from wetting her pants is an example, if the child did not fear punishment for her failure, just embarrassment. Avoiding embarrassment is relevant to many less serious lies that come under the rubric of lies-of-everyday-life.
Very often people lie to get out of an awkward social situation. In all of these instances the target does not expect to be told the truth, there is notification. But the impostor is a liar, as is the con man, because they are taking advantage of our expectation that we will be told the truth. More about this will be in my newsletter about the different techniques for lying.
So, while people often claim to want to know the truth, there are many instances in which it is more comforting to believe the lies.
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